The 3rd group of themes reflects TGNB participants’ general positive or ambiguous experiences of being fetishized. Individuals often described the episode in which these were subjected to fetishized sexual attention in positive or ambiguous means. The experience of fetish was framed as a part of their kink sexual practice and thus they viewed the experience as positive for a few participants.
I’m into kink so it is frequently fine. I really do get upset about straight men lesbians that are fetishizing. (White, nonbinary, pansexual)
One participant described the feeling as g d since it allowed them to own more sexual attention than before.
Everyone loves realizing that other femboys are masturbating in my opinion, the same as I masturbate in their mind. Seriously, I do not know very well what’s bad about being fetishized, as it’s a million times much better than once I had been a standard guy that is straight no females ever revealed any intimate interest after all. (At worst I’m averagely appealing because i am maybe not fat, perhaps not unsightly, and I also have actually a complete tresses) (White, femboy, heterosexual)
Another participant described experiencing the additional attention that is sexual of when presented as feminine.
I get a lot of sexual attention from men, and I enjoy it when I crossdress. (Hispanic/Latin, male, fluid)
Finally, a transgender woman described fetishization as an optimistic experience, particularly because her interactions are not restricted to intimate objectification as being a transgender individual; instead others’ fascination with her s ner or later extended to her as a whole person.
I became among a space that is safe fetishization wasn’t the conclusion of their attention in me personally as an individual. Yes, I happened to be “the transgender girl” nonetheless they in later interactions were respectful of me personally as an individual. About the question that is next my experiences will be an exception. (White, feminine, bisexual)
While few individuals described their experiences with fetishization as g d, some more TGNB participants described fetishization as having an ambiguous value (e.g., both negative and positive). From the one hand, being fetishized allowed TGNB individuals to have being the main focus of intimate attention and interest. Having said that, it decreases TGNB people to their appeal that is sexual only along with other faculties being ignored. This dichotomy is exemplified when you l k at the following response that is participant
Whenever having practically no option for feeling desired, being fetishized seems a lot better than having no attention after all. (White, guy, bisexual)
Some participants described the impression of ambiguity since the stress between having attention and feeling dehumanized and used.
Some body is interested that i do not like- they like boycunt or FTMs or they think I’m the best of both worlds or whatever in me and I usually feel g d and wanted, until they make a comment about me. Then I realize they’re fetishizing me personally and I also feel gross. (White, genderqueer, White)
The fetishization passes through the invalidation of identity, and individuals may realize they have been sexualized and their value reduced to having (or not having) certain sexual characteristics or body parts in other cases.
Once I arrived up to a homosexual cis man (s n after I arrived on the scene to myself) I happened to be seeing casually, he stated he didn’t worry about gender and simply that I didn’t have b bs or even a vagina. Using one level accepting, regarding the other style of reductive. (Ashkenazi Jewish, genderfluid, bisexual)
The experience was compared by some TGNB participants to be a fetishized to your connection with discrimination. When compared with episodes of transphobic aggression or microaggression, fetishization for those individuals t k for a g d connotation.
I have encountered more transphobia than fetishizing so it makes the seem that is fetishizing in contrast. (White, FtM, homosexual)
Among the individuals stated, “There is an excellent and perceptible line between being her type being her fetish” (White, genderqueer, queer). Whenever TGNB participants believe the line is crossed (i.e., they feel that they’re maybe not the item of attention as individuals with personal identification and history, however they are perceived as sexual items) their perception of fetishization becomes negative.